• [[spring snow]]
  • it snowed again the last few days, including tonight -- this after a few weeks with 15-20 degrees out. it's happened before; it's surprising still, but less than before.
• [[capra course]]
  • [[lecture 6]]
• [[flancia meet]]
  • thinking of finally setting up [[agora meet]] some other time
    • perhaps [[wednesdays at 5pm gmt]]? that's 09:00 Pacific, so it won't conflict with [[ward]]'s [[fedwiki meet]].
    • unfortunately there's a risk I will have conflicts at work, though, at least sometimes.
  • thought of priorities for the upcoming week.
• [[yiming]] == [[ChengduLittleA]]
• [[vegan backerei]]
• [[agora]]
  • [[agora server]]

    • DONE fix [[buddhist orange]]

    • DONE fix [[light theme]]

• [[unfollow]]
• [[youtube]]
• [[today I failed]]
• [[ways to nudge future]]

• [[Neediness]] comes from [[fixation]]. collapsed:: true
  • Your [[enemy]] cannot [[reject]] you. If you are [[fixated]] on an [[object]] that your enemy can associate with, they can offer to feed you that object in return for putting what they [[want]] above what you want. Your [[loss aversion]] becomes their gain.
    • Since a [[decision]] is a cutting off of a possible [[future]], many decisions start with [[No]].
      • Offering a [[Yes]] early [[trap]]s your opponent into over[[reach]]ing from [[fix]]ating on their goal, to turn a [[want]] into something that feels like a [[need]].
      • [[Invite]] your opponent to say [[No]].
      • If you make it [[safe]] for them to say [[No]], they'll feel safer to hear [[No]].
    • There are always more [[prey]], if one costs too much [[energy]] to get, let it go.
    • If you attempt to [[rush]] someone to a [[judgement]], they will be scared into [[defensive]][[resistance]].
    • If you do not get what you [[need]], you cease [[moving]] and [[die]]. If you do not get what you [[want]], you [[change]] and [[live]].
    • Feed your enemy's feeling of [[stability]] in their [[image]]. collapsed:: true
      • Let opponents show you their [[strength]], for it shows you their [[weakness]].
      • Someone in the room needs to occupy [[bottom]] [[status]], let it be you.
    • If you [[save]] your [[enemy]], you are [[responsible]] for their [[decision]].
• There are >5200 [[Fremen]] out there. Paint a rallying point.
• Instead of [[yes]] and [[no]] questions, in [[negotiation]], consider 'what would you like me to do'? Or 'how can we do X'?

2022-04-02

• Going to submit a short thing to the EU consultation on [[Sustainable consumption of goods – promoting repair and reuse]].

  • [[right to repair]]

• [[Transition Research Network Pattern Language]]

• Listened: [[Lene Andersen, Metamodernity, Meaning and Hope in a Complex World]]

• Dan told me about [[CERFI]] and said some people related to it loved my website! He might be working on a website with them.

2022-04-02

• Signed up for a [[spring reading challenge]], to read 10 books in 10 weeks. Will use this opportunity to go deep on [[Ernest Hemingway]]. I've only read two of his books before, [[The Snows of Kilimanjaro]] and [[The Old Man and the Sea]]. The ten weeks starts on Monday, so better get ready.